i have a question for you

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what do you think of people who rp transgender / autistic / blind / deaf / handicapped?

i never ran into problems while playing those (i've played two of those before, two of my favourite characters tbh), but i always wondered if people like... were upset with me?

i'm not trans, autistic, blind, deaf, or handicapped, but i do like to learn about those people and the struggles they have in their daily lives. i think it's interesting to look at them and put myself in their shoes. it's not great! i can tell you that. but i think it's sort of wonderful how some people like that can get by with their lives with a smile on their face, and those who can't, i sincerely hope they can find that peace in their life. 

personally i definitely want to try out more transgender characters, i think it's really interesting how transgender people come to be (biologically, of course). i mean it's like-- i'm not a gay man but i still play gay men and sometimes even put a dash of homophobia in their life because it's a real thing for some people. i have straight/pan/bi/gay characters that have gay parents and i don't have gay parents. 

i'm not sure. do you find it offensive? as a trans, autistic, blind, deaf, or handicapped person? do you find it offensive when girls play gay or straight men? do you find it offensive when men play gay or straight women?

like i said, i never ran into problems with this. no one called me out and been like "yo i'm trans and i don't think you should be using us as a doll" and whatnot. if they did, that's fine! everyone has an opinion but you gotta back yourself up. 

anyways- that's all i had to say. i just wanted to know if anyone finds it weird / offensive?

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fairys 6 years ago
poocas 13 hours ago Reply
the key is respect like blas said. don't render anyone you're portraying to something crooked, helpless, victimizing self damsel.

!!!!

plus, playing these charas correctly also shows that youre conscious that these things are real and relevant, and that to me is something that should be given more attention.
e77a4cdcc9a067ac4de7 6 years ago
the key is respect like blas said. don't render anyone you're portraying to something crooked, helpless, victimizing self damsel.

RPR lets us get into a character , a thought, particularly, we can't be in this life and see the struggles and beauty unfold as we interact with others within the premise— it's like watching a plant grow, given the environment inside an articial green house. I personally have no qualms.

just don't disrespect anyone. don't think anyone's struggle — gender, gender identity, gender expression, sensory damage, crippled or handicapped— as a fun thing to fulfill your nasty needs. e n e
erigom [A] 6 years ago
i’ll reply to these tomorrow. i’m tired <3
baby-groot 6 years ago
So I'm kind of relating this question to people on here rping black people or people trying to be black or act black irl since that's what I am ooc. And I don't know everyone's background on here who do happen to play someone who looks like me. If someone is only playing someone who looks like me very stereotypically or wrong or as other that's when I have a problem. But if someone who wants to do it because aesthetics or actually wants to try to understand (tho i admit they wouldnt actually ) then i'm not really mad. Because i play a lot of my asian characters for aesthetics and i have literally the tiniest amount of chinese but i also don't identify as that.

i was also talking to one of my friends about this who is on the trans* spectrum and they wanted to point out that out of the lgbt+ community, gay men are the most privileged. and that people on the trans* spectrum and those with various disabilities face a whole different set of troubles that there's some unfairness to that. And they aren't a fan of people who aren't that rping as them.

I do think it's something to think about because many people started out and still rp as asian fcs but in most of the world, east asian people, in a hierarchy of marginalized groups, are more privileged, especially if they're on the lighter side. and look at who most people play on this website. and that mostly because kpop but look at who is put in kpop groups.

i'm saying a lot and i kind of forgot where i was going for a sec but like, it's good to ask questions and try to really think on why you're doing what you're doing
bcf9628f3d55c10d23de 6 years ago
Trans - never had a problem, I don’t see the problem as rping as someone trans if they are in real life, as long as it’s not made their entire character which thank god usually doesn’t happen and I usually don’t notice that they are trans and assume that their gender is what they look like (I thought Nikita was always a girl before I saw her video once SKDSN)
Autistic - uncommon and when it’s rped it’s usually subtle thank goodness
Blind - I’ve actually rped this before and I think it’s very interesting! As long as it’s done respectfully and so much emphasis is put on it to where it’s like the only thing the character has
I don’t think too many people have rped as a deaf person because that requires sign language and would be really hard to rp
But yeah
For the most part I’ve seen people
Rp some type of disability with respect
Vivaldi 6 years ago
Long story short--- it's fine as long as you're not out there trying to make it into a ty kink.
Vivaldi 6 years ago
i broke a nail
Vivaldi 6 years ago
By golly I've been wanting to talk about this for 12 years.

Okay so like--- I found myself in a conversation with other rpers ages ago about how they felt it was offensive to rp as an impaired character (or simply any character I personally can't level with--- such as transual/transgender, for instance) because it was like playing on a fallacy.

To this day, I found that reasoning to be hella laughable. We ROLEPLAY here as characters/identities we might not associate with. I don't know about you all, but I'm not in ANY part of my real life ever a 23 year-old Asian male idol. So it seems like a double standard to harp on people who, for once, would like to NOT portray a cis-"normal", fully healthy and societally-accepted human being. I think it's realistic and ADMIRABLE to portray characters that aren't just "Sally Sue Parker, 22, college student, nice girl" all the time.

Now granted---

There's a catch. I hate when people use those particular qualities/lifestyles as "tropes" or plot cannons. I've seen people terribly misrepresent the psychiatric community with disgusting portrayals of people who suffer from biopolar disorder, schizophrenia, etc. Some, especially in particular AU's (ex. , mature) tend to try to use those aspects to garner pity or, god forbid--- .

It's important, like with ANY aspect of your character, that you do your research. Respect the community your character represents. Treat them like a human being with a unique quality, not a defect. It's all about research. It's silly to think that we can only roleplay as things/people/aspects we relate to because NONE of us relate to half the people we portray here. If my character is a gay male, I can't upset the male species just because I'm a female OOC who is enacting them. I CAN, however, offend them by portraying all my males to be effeminate as if that's how homouality is rendered.

It's not really a hard line.

I've done this for years and only ever came upon concerns when I asked. What's funny is the people who seem to be particular cautious or rearing for offense are those who HAVE none of these aspects/qualities. It's one thing to be politically correct, but in this case--- on a roleplay site wherein we all portray walks of life that none of us may personally have to face--- it's almost contrite.
henggarae 6 years ago
I think as long as you’re not romanticizing it and you’re portraying it to the best of your abilities (doing extra research and maybe running it over with people who do fall under these categories) then it’s alright, but like nty said: there’s a fine line and sometimes it’s hard to see that line. I would honestly just be careful with it.
teddygraham 6 years ago
As a trans pan person, i honestly don't find it offensive when people play trans charas or when people who are not of a certain uality, play their charas that way. That's the beauty of this site sometimes. Now, i can't really speak on behalf of the other things like the def or blind since I'm not that. I usually just play charas with my ooc uality, so all my characters are usually panual.
bigsadenergy 6 years ago
hard line*
bigsadenergy 6 years ago
i think it’s a hard like to walk as an rper. i don’t want to rp them merely to take advantage of their state—like people sometimes tend to do with illness, you know?

i admire people that can rp the nontypical character and actually do it justice. but it’s so hard to do it justice when you don’t know their struggle, you know? you don’t want to insult them by only showing stereotypes or as someone weak. it’s just a part of them after all. it’s not their whole identity and people on rpr tend to forget that.

also it’s a fine line to walk because hypothetically imagine if that person you’re rping comes across rpr and you rping them—how do you think they would react to you portraying them?
of course, i’m being hypocritical cause i rp gay characters when i doubt they’re gay but... man. morals are difficult here. if in doubt, take the moral high ground and don’t it. it’s better than upsetting someone. even if unintentionally.
63d328e4d30a2b03325e 6 years ago
Can I answer this?
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