How?

259 views

Created Nov 1, 2022 06:45:45

How do you get over a 13+ year friendship? How do you say goodbye? How do you get over the fear of loneliness? How so you deal with these friends excluding you from hanging out as they post it on social media with the friends they replaced you with? How do you remain strong when you feel so ed over? I usually try nit to cry or have any of those ty feelings because if I do, I feel like they win. Like they won and made me look pathetic. But yesterday I actually broke down and cried to my dad(my rock), I told him I've been trying to be strong and believed my friends excuses for not inviting me and this latest time...I didn't even bother to waste my breath. How do I move on? How do I come to terms that this 13+ year friendship is over because they clearly don't care. How do I accept that loneliness? Of the birthdays I'll have no friends to spend it with... stories of boyfriends and girlfriends I can't share not would they share them with me because my friends aren't talking to me anymore. They can make 100 mistakes and be selfish as much as they want...but when I make a mistake and act selfish once....I'm done? How do I come back from this? How do I accept that they are done with me. All the words and lies and sneaking around and not inviting me out....the blatant replacement watching my stories like she doesn't have a problem with me but obviously made it seem bigger than it was and caused a major problem. How do I move on? I'm completely ed. How do I make new life long friends? How does one even do that nowadays? Sorry for my rant. I'm just mind ed.

Comments

You must be logged in to comment.

899047fdcf9a091cdb13 1 year ago

I'm going to be painfully honest and say you either become a better person who learns how to really deal with let down or you become kind of numb to it. You stop letting people in, everyone becomes acquaintances and not friends, etc. I had a friendship for 13+ years that ended in 5 minutes because she suddenly decided 'I never wanted to be your friend'. There is no real answer because everyone is different. You grow from it but what direction, that's up to you. It though and it hurts, no matter how many times you deal with it. But, you move on and find better people as you go.

BeautifulCrazy 1 year ago

Just because you know someone for years does not mean that they're meant to be in your life forever. If they are no longer helping you better your life to grow, it's time to close that chapter. Stop rereading it when it no longer serves you. Its gonna be hard to move past that loneliness but literally, once you let go of them and start that new chapter, you'll attract new friends. It's all down to you and how strong you will be to end the chapter. Even if it means ghosting them at times for your own benefit

indelible 1 year ago

It cause people could change at times which makes the longetivity doesn't really matter anymore. You can't make people stay in your life when they wanted to leave and I know that can be hurtful when you wanted to keep them in your life, but two sides have to make this to work. Communications works so if you need answers, ask them what's going on and why would they keep leaving you out. If nothing has changed even after that, I'd say stop chasing and focus on yourself. Do things that makes you feel good. Spend time with your family. Find joys in your solitude. Find gratitude in the little things in your life. Those who are meant to be in your life would never leave your side during the hardest time and I assure you when you let go of these people, the right ones will come into your life and appreciate you for who you are, and not what they want you to be. I hope things get better for you and just know that it's okay to be sad and mad about the situation, but also be aware that it won't last and you shouldn't beating up yourself for what has happened. Always be kind to the most important person in your life, that's you.

0e3f97d30391478699bf 1 year ago

I don't know you but I've been in your shoes before so I have some unsolicited advice.

You have to realise that you're worth something too, whatever mistake you made it doesn't matter. People screw up all of the time. If someone is holding that mistake against you they aren't worth your time and you deserve better. You have to tell yourself that. And you have to tell your friends you're done playing games. When you see your worth things change I promise. It takes a long time to form healthy friendships, but you'll get there with people who can see your worth too. Demand it. Yeah loneliness is difficult to deal with, but learning to be alone rather than waste your time with people who don't care for you is one of the biggest acts of self love you'll ever be able to do. Anyway I hope this helps in some way, please be kinder to yourself.

TokidokiHelloKitty 1 year ago

Awwww :(

Sorry, are you ok?