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Stands for: & Disciple, Dominance & Submission, Sadist & Masochist

The difference between & Abuse:

Short Answer: Consent

Long Answer: "The submissive voluntarily gives up some or all of their power to the dominant. Underlining the power exchange is the consent of all involved parties, and many steps are taken to ensure a safe, healthy and rewarding ual experience.”

http://missalicegray.com/family-life/advice/the-difference-between-abuse-and-

http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2011/08/03/thinking-more-clearly-about--versus-abuse/

Symbol/Emblem

Roles:

What kind of submissive are you? The conceptual, mental, romantic, bedroom, servant, slave, slave, SAM(Smart Masochists), Attention Seeker, or the Alpha Submissive?

http://www.goodreads.com/author_blog_posts/3980035-what-type-of-submissive-are-you

What type of Dom are you? Daddy/Mommy, Gorean, FemDom, Sadists, Bears, Lesser Gods, Pharoanic Lords, Farmers/Collectors.

Slaves: Gorean, Slave, Domestic Slave, Pain Slave, Pet, Breeder, Cow/Pig, Pharoanic or Worship slaves, Ofper, Sacrifice Slaves

http://en.allexperts.com/q/-2733/2009/11/different-types-dom-different.htm

Pets.

I argue this one. But traditionally pets are involved in some sort of animal play (not ) they enjoy dressing as kittens, ponies, dogs. Not in huge fursuits, more ears and tails. They’re pet like, and OFTEN non ual. However, I differ here and say that pets do not HAVE to be into dressing as animals - simply enjoy the same attention, and they can be ually.

Communication:

"Good communication is what we learn throughout our life and what quite difficult task is for those who are not willing to cooperate. It’s a mistaken idea that relationships are about beating, torturing, punishment and all the stuff. This outward vision often hides something more important, which is in any way a basis for any relationships. However not every talk can be called good or effective one even in terms of one scene."

-http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/community/2012-02-07-19-21-15/-related-pages/-related-articles-and-topics/45-communication-in--relationships

Sub/Drop - After Care

If you’re a Master, and you neglect your submissive after a scene; even a mild one. You’re kind of a piece of . You tend to them, you hold them, you tell them they were good. This is the time where you break down the wall, and hold your submissive like an old love. You tell them you love them and make sure they’re okay. Aftercare is extremely important - and an amazing feeling. It’s also an opportunity to talk to your pet about what they enjoyed vs what they didn’t.

Safe Words/ Safesign.

A safeword or a safesign is used as a “I’ve had too much”. Say - you’ve got your submissive gagged, and you’re spanking them. They CANT take anymore - so you have a set up safe sign, she raises two fingers. You ungag her and ask - do you need a break, or do you need to stop. A SUBMISSIVE SHOULD NEVER BE PUNISHED FOR USING THEIR SAFE SIGN OR SAFEWORD. This is put in place to safely and politely say - please stop. If a submissive uses their safeword, you need to stop and take them up in arms, make sure they’re alright.

A safeword is a code word or series of code words that are sometimes used in for a submissive or bottom to unambiguously communicate their physical or emotional state to a dominant or top, typically when approaching, or crossing, a physical, emotional, or moral boundary.

It’s used when unable to continue with any punishment or action. Saying just stop can be a gut reaction, so is often overlooked. A word typically not used in such a scenario shows that you’re intentionally telling them to stop.

The safe word is selected by the dom and sub, in which it can be anything. Ex.Red, blue, cut, halt etc.

Ex. Yellow is slow red means stop

Play

/Dungeon Rooms

rooms don’t all look the same, but are similar. They come in variant colors also such as purple, white, etc. But, Red and Black is most popular

Play Consists of : Toys, Training Games, Gimp/Latex Suits, Dog Houses. Cages, Claws, Sensory Play(Ice/Candle Wax), Tickle torture, chasity belt, flogging, caning and much more.

Terms:

Hot Wife- A wife who solely goes out and s other men, in which her mate knows

Swingers- Couple who s other people together

- Consists of a male submissive in the relationship, but he is to only watch as his partner s another man in front of him. In the end, he is forced to clean/ the from his partner or with the male she slept with before him. He is often taunted and humiliated also.

Ruined : The kind of a guy has when his hands are tied out of the way and his is stimulated just until he can’t stop anymore, and then let go. Neat to watch because of the way it bounces with each spurt. Embarrassing for the guy, especially if several girls are watching, and not real satisfying.

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Predicament :

Predicament is a form of where the bottom has a limited number of positions or choices. They are forced between choosing between these two options. Often switching back and forth between them. So you restrain them in such a way that they have to choose between option A and option B. Typically one option is muscle strain and the other option is something involving their s. Credit

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Limits are probably one of the most important things in D/s.

If you don’t respect limits, you can emotionally and physically traumatize your submissive. And then you go to hell, where I’m waiting to ing disrespect YOUR limits.

Soft Limits:

Using breathplay as an example. Alright, so a soft limit is basically something you’re not sure you want to do - or something you don’t THINK you want to do, but you’re willing to try to do in time, in the right condition, and the right mindset. A Master shouldn’t PUSH these limits, however they do retain the right to try and ask you to do them. They should respect if you say no, and not force them on you. With a soft limit, A master might wrap his hands gently around his pets throat, and test their response - if it’s negative, they respect the soft limit, and if it’s positive, they might push it slowly and safely.

Hard Limits:

Hard limits are not to be ed with. If your submissive says “Breathplay is a hard limit’ you never ing touch their neck in a choking manner. You do not ask, you don’t push, you don’t even ing think to do it to them. If they ASK you, that’s one thing. But as a hard limit… It’s ing OFF the table.

SSC:

SSC: Safe, Sane, Consensual.

As a Master, you need to understand and respect this. That everything you do with your submissive needs to be safe, sane and consensual. Your goal is NOT to cause trauma on your willing submissive. You are their teacher, their guide. As a submissive - you need to understand that if someone is hurting you in a way you don’t approve; even if they’re your Master. You need to GET OUT of that relationship.

RACK:

Risk Assessed, Consensual Kink.

Let’s use breathplay as an example - because it is dangerous. If I have a submissive, and I’m interested in breathplay with them. I need to talk to them about it. It’s my ing duty as a Master to make sure they’re A) Willing to take part in my desire. B) Mentally prepared for the shock, the pain, and the fear that might come with it. C) Physically able to endure being choked. D) Understand the risks, and understand they have a safe word (or sign).

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More Terms Here: http://www.differentequals.com/glossary.html

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Dominant Styles

You don’t have to be that ideal serious Dom that you see in videos. All doms have their own unique styles and also may take time to disover their own style as well.

Examples of styles are the following: