“Don’t take it seriously. It’s just RP.” [Yeah, this is a mini-rant.]

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This post may or may not upset some people but I doubt many people will see it anyway, let alone read it. Either way, I honestly don't care if it upsets you.

What you do in roleplay is entirely up to you.

If you choose not to take things seriously because it is "just an rp" to you, then so be it. If you choose to take things seriously, just because you want to, so be it.

What I can't stand is seeing people telling others not to take it seriously just because it's a roleplay. It really aggravates me, to the point that I don't think "aggravates" is the best word to use to describe it.

I think there are a lot of factors or at least some reasoning, whether one realizes it or not, as to why roleplay feels so real.

For me, personally, I'm not much of a socialite. I don't take to social experiences well. I feel like that's the only way to put it. I've always been into writing and just have always found that as my escape. It's been like that for as long as I can remember and I've been roleplaying for well over ten years at this point so there's that. Meeting other people with similar interests, with whom I could also tell and create a story with, just pulled so many things together for me and it's just always felt nice. I tend to take it seriously, more often than not, because I don't have many friends. Well, none really, that aren't friends that I've made online. When I find connections, I enjoy them, in character and out of it. I mean, if I don’t necessarily connect with someone, then I may not take it to heart, or at least not so much so in comparison to someone with whom I feel a connection.

This is bugging me because it was all over my Twitter, well, one of my rp accounts. I saw someone with this long tweet/thread of tweets in which they were telling people not to tell other roleplayers to not take rp seriously. They mentioned how it still hurts when things happen and that it’s why some people use this idea that, because it’s just rp,  they can go around and sleep with whomever and just plain homewreck really. Then, not too long after, I saw this other tweet yesterday but I can’t remember how long it’s been since I saw the first one. Anyway, the second person was talking about how people shouldn’t take it seriously and retweeted someone saying something along the lines of “you guys are tripping if you think I’m putting and ic relationship over my ooc life.” And what bothers me so much is that, yes, I understand there are people like that but, honestly, if you just treat people right, regardless of whether it’s your ic or your ooc life, it wouldn’t matter if it fused.

You can choose to prioritize what you want. I know on Twitter it’s actually a lot more personal than it is here. Friends and things are made here but the way rp world runs on Twitter is a different vibe honestly. But, anyway, from what I’ve seen here on RPR, at least from my side of the community, there is like occasional cheating and fights and falling out of love and in love and so on. For others, it may be a different experience. At the end of the day though, no one can or should tell you what you should stop doing unless it’s really affecting your or others in an unhealthy manner.

It just really bugged me that people are just so quick to shut it down. You can choose to keep your feelings out of rp or just let things happen but it just pisses me off when people brush off someone else’s feelings just because it is roleplay. I’m not asking for your hand in marriage in real life or declaring your mortal enemy in real life. There are boundaries, yes, but just because you don’t want to attach yourself but so much doesn’t give you the right to tell other people that they can’t and it sure enough doesn’t give you the right to trample over anyone else’s feelings. Drama in roleplay happens like it does in real life most of the time. Things happen. If getting too attached it toxic for you in some way, like your emotions can’t take it, then, yes, separate yourself some but, at the end of the day, don’t be rude and force others into this bubble. I know some people don’t attach themselves but they’re still nice about it and just don’t want their ooc life mixing with their rp life but so much. Do you.

I’m just saying do you. Do what works for you but don’t expect everyone else to follow your lead or not feel some kind of way if you just drop them, and so on.

I feel like this is rambling but I really hope that I just got my point across is all.

If you’ve read this far, thank you for reading.

Have a wonderful day/afternoon/evening wherever you are. And remember that, no matter where you are, who you are, you are loved. ♡

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hologram 5 years ago
honestly if you let roleplaying as a completely different person on a website with people you don't know affect you ooc you should probably stop roleplaying js
bbc0adb2e9e9788434c2 5 years ago
I usually always get attached to my characters and I think it's alright to get attached. It's also alright not to get attached. But cheating and stuff ic is not validated by saying this is not ooc or whatsoever. I mean if you two plotted it, it's totally fine and well it might happen that not everything is in this perfect little world (honestly if everything is always perfect I do get bored sometimes too), but there is a difference of making rping more interesting by involving some events and treating your partner or friends in an rp like or respectless or whatsoever. I think some people have to learn the difference between those two things.
pinkopal 5 years ago
Big reason why I don't take ic breakups well because still hurts
We're humans and sometimes we can't help the way we feel about things. Yes, it's just rping but that doesn't invalidate how someone feels towards a situation.
I've had more emotional experiences, good and bad, with rping than I've had in my ooc life.
venteux 5 years ago
anything non consensual when it comes to rp is bad, ooc or not. we’re here to have fun, not be treated like dirt.
cancel 5 years ago
like infidelity WITHOUT consent shows how much respect and communication you offer to others which is... none. it shows to an extent how considerate you are of others.

writing is just like any other sport. we put our personal lives behind, but that doesn't mean we go out and hurt others just because we aren't //personally us//; we still hold consequences regardless because our ic charas are mainly fueled by our own emotions even if we don't want it to be.
peptobismol 5 years ago
https://www.roleplayrepublic.com/blog/view/120235
dionysus 5 years ago
there is a mine to be crossed even when rping. it is just an rp and it isn’t to be taken so seriously but like infidelity and abuse cross a moral boundary. if both parties aren’t consenting to this then of course you’ll get mad, you felt cheated and lied to and that’s not okay
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