a genuine question for the everyone..

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Created Nov 7, 2021 20:05:21

I feel like a few of us are secretly banned or blacklisted and literally don’t even know why, so I was hoping you all could help me clarify just what is even going on

okay here’s why I say this:

other person makes rp/ it succeeds, gets 40 or 50 faves and even featured
one of us makes the same type of rp/ it flops or doesn’t do as well in general
other person joins rp/ everyone talks interacts plays with them
one of us joins rp/ rooms go silent, gets ignored, things pick up again when we leave
other person is at a rp/ it continues to grow and get bigger and bigger
one of us is at a rp/ fewer people join and they actually start being more inactive and the rp eventually dies

As far as I know, none of us have done anything to anyone, but please let me know if that’s not the case in the comments. I really want to resolve whatever this is move past all this nonsense and have fun in rps again without worrying if I’m actively being avoided or not. Also please share your experiences in the comments too if this has happened to you.

Disclaimer: I will not tolerate any rude or irrelevant disrespectful comments I’m not here to argue with anyone. I simply want to start a conversation and possibly resolve whatever peacefully.

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lalapewpew 2 years ago

Its so many good points in these comments and its sad that this shadow banned treatment is happening to people at all but this part of one of the post,

“yeah I don't know how much longer the site will last with this attitude but most days it's difficult to find a reason to login :/ which is sad because I've always loved rping.”

that would if its really slowly coming to nothing, this site really used to be awesome and the people who just cant get it together and made it toxic are clearly ruining it still

i_wonder 2 years ago

I've been experiencing the same thing for years. at this point I can't even join rps anymore because when I do, the rp suddenly flops and goes silent until I leave

435f4d5f77920f5ad3c6 2 years ago

I've been trying to wrap my head around this and I still don't get it. Like I assumed it was the same for me because my FCs weren't popular anymore but then I got a popular FC and was still ignored. I think I only ever had the most activity when my characters were being pursued romantically. If one person decides they like your character suddenly the entire rp is trying to jump into your pants. I just... don't get it.
I'm currently being ignored in all the rps I'm in, but when I go out of my way to plot and make something interesting happen suddenly the entire rp is reliant on me and it gets tiring.
It used to be fun, I used to feel confident joining a bunch of different rps to hang out and talk to people, but now it's like if I don't ask a friend to join I don't rp and end up losing my character which every time but you can't force people to rp with you.
People sticking to their friendship groups is part of the problem, but at the same time it's the only way to get some interaction. It's usually the same group of users hopping through one rp to the next with the same admins and I miss what this site used to be. Where's the creativity in that?
Anyway, yeah I don't know how much longer the site will last with this attitude but most days it's difficult to find a reason to login :/ which is sad because I've always loved rping.

AureliaL 2 years ago

The last one I relate soooo much, for years I've been thinking if RPR has it's very own curse on certain users like me.. The rp was booming up until I join and it dies off after a week of me joining..

workworkwork 2 years ago

So don't hate me for this but...
If people seem to be avoiding you, it's probably for one of two reasons.
1) Someone is talking about you and it's totally unfounded.
2) You have, through some action you probably aren't even aware of yourself, put a red flag on yourself.

It's easy to think it's all because other people are bad for not giving you a chance, but I'd encourage you to proactively go out of your way to be extra friendly or something. Because other people's actions are out of your control and getting stressed about it won't change anything. The only way it will change is if you do something yourself.

Also about the rps: Marketing, presentation, admin activity and how inclusive admins are plays a big role in the rp's success. So the rp might not be failing because people don't like you.

hologram 2 years ago

this place has essentially become high school. if some one dislikes you or thinks negatively of you, they'll gossip to their friends and whoever their close with. those people will then suddenly have a problem with you even if you've never even interacted with them or seen them before because they just automatically side with and follow their friend or group leader. people also like to be immature if they dislike or disagree with something you've said and avoid or ignore you instead of being mature and attempting to talk things out. that's just the culture on here now unfortunately.

kaeya- 2 years ago

i feel like it's the same everywhere, to be honest. ever since i joined this site i never knew it would come to this - when i see who the admin(s) is / are i am instantly saying to myself that i won't be joining because i know very well who the people in the roleplay will be and how ignored i will be so. yeah. this site used to be a place where i could be free and myself but not anymore. all because of the few people who make me and everyone else feel like that.